My gf has no plans to get a job after graduation. She said we should get married after she finish school as I am much older than her and she wants to be a young mother. We have been together for 3 years.
I got to know her through her brother. She has a minor disability so she cannot do any work that requires her to stress out her body.
All along my family doesn’t have a good impression of her due to some issues. My gf is not a very knowledgeable person and can be quite tactless.
She has little friends and little knowledge on social skills so she often offended my parents with words. Once she told my mother that her branded bag is a fake when my mother bought the bag at mbs so there is no way it is fake but my gf insisted.
That storm took a few months to settle. I have asked my gf to apologize but she refused. She said she saw on a website about counterfeits so she was sure she is right.
My parents have suggested that I can find a better woman and I find it very disheartening to not have their support.
My mother also threatened to leave my name out of the will if I marry her because they don’t want my gf to get a single cent. I find things are not working out the longer we are together.
I have many problems with my gf. She wants me to promise her many material things as she won’t be working. She wants 1 branded bag a year, holiday twice a year, she wants an allowance even before she finish school.
She would cry and make things difficult till I give in when she wants something. As she is still a student I have been paying for all our dating expenses.
She would bring me along to her shopping trips and have me pay for her purchases too. She will dictate when I can touch her too. Â
I reached a stage where I don’t think I can support her wants anymore. I don’t know how to break up with her without her brother coming after me.
Sometimes I also think she is using her disability as an excuse to not want to work. It’s a sensitive issue for us and she would throw a fit or cry when I want to talk to her about it.
Am I a bad guy if I were to leave her?