My girlfriend told me to call her names in bed then cried when I did.
So, yeah, this exactly as it sounds. My girlfriend (20 me, 19 her) asked me during foreplay to call her names, specifically sl-t and wh–e.
So, you know, I did it. When things heated up a bit more, I started whispering in her ear about how she’ll be my sl-t tonight or that she’s a good little wh–e because she did something I like.
At some point I was going down on her and she started sobbing and I’m like baby what’s up????? then she said she actually didn’t like it that I called her those things, and it wasn’t how she expected because I said it so “seriously” she felt I was actually insulting her.
Why would she ask me to verbally insult her when we are making love then cry because I did???????
Netizens’ comments
- You know, sometimes we order the pistachio ice cream and then realize that actually, we don’t like pistachio.
Give her lots of cuddles and kisses, and reassure her that you won’t say it like that again.
She also objected a bit to your tone, so maybe say that you’re still open to finding the right dirty talk, and you should talk about what she likes more on an ongoing basis. - Yeah fantasies don’t always translate to reality. You did nothing wrong though, just reassure her that you don’t have to do it ever again and you respect her and did it out of love
- There are several options.
The most straightforward option is she thought it would be hot but then realized it wasn’t for her. In that case, reassure her you respect her and that playing a role during intercourse isn’t real life.
Another option is that she did this because she thought you wanted it. People will do all sorts of things they don’t really want to do when they think their partner wants it. In that case, reassure her that you like your intimate life and that that’s not something you need.