My GF and I have been together for 4 years, and do not live together. We plan to move in together next June, to my place. GF has her own apartment with roommates.
My GF texted me this morning in a panic, saying somehow her bank account got really low and she doesn’t have enough for her installment or insurance or whatever.
She did just pay her university loan, and with prices going up, I know it’s been harder for her to save up a budget. She is currently an intern at her company, and doesn’t make much. I work full time at a I/T company.
She asked me if I could possibly lend her $1700 for her stuff until her payday on the 14th, and she would pay me back in 2 instalments.
I told her no, and that that was a lot of money I don’t feel comfortable giving my GF. I’m not tight for money or anything, but I just didn’t feel comfortable giving money to a girlfriend. She never texted me back, so I called her at lunch and she told me not to bother because she just asked her mom.
But she said she was a little upset with me, and felt kind of sad that I wouldnt lend her money for one thing when she’s never asked me for anything before. She said she realizes that $1700 is a bit of money, but she doesn’t understand why I just flat out refused her, after being together for 4 years.
I told her I wanted to marry her and she argued that you should want to help out someone you’re thinking of marrying.
I told her I just don’t feel comfortable giving out money to anyone, and she yelled at me about calling her “Just anyone” and hung up the phone.
Sounds like it’s over.