Firstly, context:
Before dating, my ex Jess (fake name) and I were best friends. I was never really one to become attached to friends easily, but within 3.5 short years we created the most beautiful connection I have ever been apart of.
Started something beautiful together
Together, we climbed out of the our respective rock bottoms and inspired each other to put our lives back together. We would have the most intense and in depth conversations about our trauma, upbringing, mental illness and past experiences.
We will then discuss why we are the way we are and do the things that we do. To this day she remains the only person in the world – by far – who comes close to knowing who I am deep down.
This girl was someone I had thought of as the girl of my dreams.
We started dating and it was absolute heaven. At first. Then, as it often happens, a bunch of stuff transpired that I’m not going to go into here.
Didn’t reply her one night for a few minutes and we broke up
Then came The Break Up.
I went to my friends place for drinks. Yes, maybe I could’ve invited Jess but it wasn’t her scene and she went out drinking with her work mates so I thought it would all be good.
Spoiler alert: it was not.
She started off by sending me nice, cute drunk messages. How i was the love of her life etc etc. Then I screwed up. Majorly.
I didn’t respond for 12. Whole. Minutes.
Then Jess started sending me message after message full of rubbish and untrue accusations. I replied a couple times but eventually decided that there was no reasoning with her in this state and blocked her on Whatsapp, with the plan to wait for her to calm down and discuss properly in person the next day.
I admittedly, and a bit selfishly, didn’t want her to ruin my night.
I counted the next day and from memory she sent over 100messages in a 20min period before she was blocked. Who knows how many she sent all up.
Later that night i checked Facebook to see where Jess’s head was at. She had the tendency to post status’s/memes when we were fighting, so I wanted to try to gauge whether if she: switched back to enjoying the night with friends, was upset and ashamed of her reaction, was sad posting, or the most likely option that she was angry.
She had actually blocked me and tbh i gave her a lil nod of respect regarding her pettiness. I was like “yeah, nah, thats fair hey”.
So the next day I checked to see whether she had unblocked me. Turns out she did but…
She had changed her Facebook relationship status to single.
And that is how i found out we had broken up.
Was too devastated by it
It was devastating. I would’ve been broken hearted by anyone splitting up with me in such a way. But the fact that it was this girl? The person i trusted the most? The one i thought understood and loved me more than anyone else ever had before?
The person I supported through thick and thin only to be treated like crap?
DEVASTATING is the only word that comes close to describing it.