My [28M] girlfriend [27F] cheated on me, got pregnant and had an abortion. What now?
I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for 6 years. I had been planning to ask her to marry me later this year. From my perspective, everything has been stable and loving in our relationship.
However, over the last few months, I’ve noticed that she became super secretive about her phone- and I finally got up the nerve to look through it.
Well, what I found absolutely stunned me. She seems to have developed a deep, lasting relationship with another man. Their texts range from the mundane to the sorts of fantasies they are acting out together. There are texts planning their next bedroom escapades, him asking her when I’m leaving for the day (we don’t live together) and so on.
Believe me or not, it gets worse. As I scrolled through their conversation, I found that she got pregnant by this man. There were texts about how the pregnancy is making her feel, and a screenshot of a doctor’s appointment.
I’m stunned beyond all words. My legs became weak reading this information, and I still can’t quite process it. She seems absolutely and completely normal towards me- if anything more loving than in years past. I can’t reconcile what I’m seeing in our relationship with the woman I can read about in the text messages.
I also love her very much. I’m crushed. And I have no idea how to even approach the topic with her. This is the woman I thought I’d grow old with.
So, I’m asking for advice. Do I throw away the 6 years we have? Do I try and salvage this situation? Please forgive me if this sounds ridiculous, I don’t even know what I SHOULD be asking right now. My head is absolutely spinning. Thanks for reading and for any advice you might have.