Found out my gf lied to me about her past before proposal
About to propose to my gf of 3 years and we’ve haven’t done it. in the beginning she said she was a vir, never seen a fully naked guy irl before, never seen dck etc.
Recently was using her email to send some documents to my email and I couldn’t find it and accidentally click on the filter by date from oldest to newest button and what came after was a shock.
Back in 2010 where I presume whatsapp etc was not in existence yet, she and her ex had exchanged email about her performing hand jobs etc. Idk if they were fully intimate but what killed me is th fact that she had to lie about it.
What are the rationale behind lying about it? I never once forced an answer out from her. I am about to propose soon but this incident made me reconsider everything. I know her past before she got to know me is okay as it is her past but I cannot understand why lie?
Pls help a bro out. I’m stressed and caught in a dilemma. I can’t even confront her as she doesn’t know that I discovered the emails. Can’t help but think God is sending me a sign.
Here are what netizens think:
- If you’re uncomfortable with her lying to you about her past, then let the relationship go. Forget about the proposal and heal before dating another woman. For the next one, just tell her to be candid about her past and decide if you want to continue with the relationship as well.
- Everyone has a pink lie (dark secret) to hide. Ask her about this and talk things through in a mature manner (dont blame, dont judge and dont get emotional). If love overcomes yr pride, then make sure this issue will never resurface again after marriage. If pride wins over the 3 years, then i wish u all the best finding someone who is as pure as ur heart, body and soul.
- If you cannot accept her after reading those emails then leave her. Don’t even think of continuing this relationship let alone propose or getting married. If you still can’t decide, let her know you found out about the emails. Her response should give you an answer how to deal with.
- The lie is definitely a mistake on her end. See if she choose to defend herself first or acknowledge her wrong, follow by her explanation first or even asked you why you went through her emails first. There’s differences in all above mentioned and hope you get it