Dumped my broke bf
My bf is one of the most unambitious, lazy person I ever had the misfortune of knowing. He doesn’t want to upgrade himself, sticking to his dead end, menial job. 0 ambition and whenever I confront him about it, his response was always to be contented with simple living.
I am earning at least 5x his income and sometimes, want to enjoy the finer things in life. So I will offer to bring him to restaurants, using my own money, only to hear him say how cai fan from a coffee shop tastes as good.
Last straw came when he told me to change jobs, take a pay cut, so we can buy a bto as we are above the income ceiling. I outright told him I don’t want to stay in a hdb and will want to buy a condo.
He kept insisting a hdb is as good as a condo. Told him I can pay my share fr the condo, can he buck up and pay his share. He say he doesn’t want. Instead, we can consider. Hdb rental flat if we want our own space.
Dumped him on the spot.
Netizens’ comments
- You’re completely incompatible so of course it’s good you broke up – but there’s some wisdom in what he says.
Restaurant food is not always better than hawker food, or why would our hawker culture be UNESCO world heritage?
A condo is not always better than a HDB, the maintenance charges are much lower and they can be excellent value for money. They can be located in prime locations or in beautiful scenic spots. You may also qualify for various grants to buy a HDB.
You should reconsider why you wanted to force your ex to pay his share (presumably half) of something he didn’t want. Fundamentally you were forcing him into a financial decision. You wouldn’t like it if the roles were reversed, would you? - You are playing Dota 2 while he’s playing League of Legends. Different game sis.
- Both not suitable for each other. You worked hard play hard. He is more chill and simple. Important to find someone who has the same amibiton with you.
- Who are you trying to show off to that you’re enjoying the “finer things in life”? After awhile, the finer things in life taste and feel the same if you don’t have someone who loves you and you love enjoying them with you, no? There’s nothing wrong with your bf’s mentality of living simply – there’s no need to spend money to impress those who don’t matter.