I was there for him through everything. I helped him financially. I helped him emotionally. I gave him advice and encouragement when he didn’t have it. I was there for him when he didn’t have anyone else in his life (that should have been a red flag).
My birthday is in a week and I wanted to spend it with him. I also was planning to buy him a huge teddy bear, his favorite candy and going out to dinner with him for our anniversary. But instead, I found out from his friend that numerous times after I left, he’d invite other girls AND SOMETIMES GUYS over and sleep with them. This explains why he asked me to help him move his bed from his wall that’s next to his roommates wall (she still ended up finding out and showing me evidence). He doesn’t care, has blamed me and said it’s my fault for volunteering do everything I did for him, and has blocked my number.
I accept my part in this. I gave him way too much soon and have to take full responsibility for it. But I still feel very hurt. And I still feel like a loser.
Here are what netizens think:
- It really isn’t your fault you got cheated on and taken advantage of. It sucks that you sound like such a sweet and giving person and it ended up wasted on some self-centered jerk. Him blaming you is a weak deflection.
- You aren’t a loser. You cared for someone who wasn’t what you thought he was. You learn from these experiences. Best wishes.
- You’re not a loser- a loser is a person who cheats on their partner. You gave what you wanted to give and what felt right for you to give in a relationship. Unfortunately he used you and has hurt you in doing so. The best thing you can do is block him and look after you. He took a lot from you and now it’s time to give it back to yourself. You deserved better. He is not better.