I recently found out that my gf has been going on paid dates by guys.
I thought that she would feel guilty if I confronted her about it. However, it seems that she does not seem bothered by it. She likened it to going out with male friends for a meal and had also emphasized to all her clients that they are not allowed to touch her and she will not be taking their cars.
She feels that it is just a part-time job that she does apart from her normal day job and it is no different from like giving tuition or doing sales, just that it is easier to earn money this way and some are very generous with the tips.
I asked her if she could stop doing this but she insists that she will continue to do so and she assured me that she will never do anything more with any of the guys on paid dates and is doing so to earn extra income for our future house.
If I am fine with it, she will let me know whenever she goes on her paid dates and whenever she is back at home.
I mean even if I tell her I am fine, how will I ever be totally fine. Sure she may really see it as ‘only a job’ but the guy that is paying her may not think so. There is always that what if factor there like what if the guy is really handsome or what if the guy is really willing to pay her much more for more ‘services’? Will she then not be tempted? I have read some of the messages between her and those guys and some are real disgusting. They will request for her to dress in certain ways when meeting them, some will ask if they could top up more for more ‘services’ on their date and one of them even asked if they could buy the pair of panties she is wearing at the end of their date. Like wtf how can I not be worried when the guys that shes meeting are like that.
What would you all do if faced with this situation?