I can’t stand my boyfriend’s friends, and while it hasn’t always been like this, it’s becoming increasing uncomfortable knowing that they’re going to be in his life (and inadvertently mine).
we’ve been together for 6 years, coming 7 and for the earlier parts of the rs we got along well, until i realised that they’ve been actively using each other to lie to their gfs and cheat on them.
A couple of his attached/married friends even made advanced on me which I’ve rejected and told him. I thought he would stand up for me but he hasn’t.
As much as I want to believe that my bf isn’t like them (birds of the same feather flock together), I can’t because he’s already cheated on me several times and while I’ve chosen to forgive him.
I’ve asked that he distance himself from them and that we discuss meeting them together when we’re in a better place rs wise but I think he’s been meeting them behind my back and lying about it and I don’t know what to think of it.
Here are what netizens think:
- To be honest, you cannot control his friends’ influence in his life and that includes the degree of influence they have inadvertently, on yours. It’s either you learn to compromise where possible and let them be, or if it gets too much, end this relationship and find a guy whose friends are less harmful. His friends aside; him cheating is already THE reason enough to leave, no?
- Leave the whole lot, including ur 6yrs bf. Dont stay just because ur rs is long, even a married couple for longer yrs can divorce if the spouse is cheating. U want to live this way everyday or u want to have a better life with someone who doesnt cheat? Its up to u though so think about ur happiness and what kind of rs u deserves
- just so you know, his behaviour is probaby not caused by them. accept this fact first then decide on where you want to head in the relationship.