I recently went to the doctor to get a standard wellness visit and got some bloodwork done. I mainly wanted the bloodwork to see if my iron levels were low and check my cholesterol levels. My doctor asked if I wanted to check for stds as well and I said yes not thinking much of it. Well I got my results and I have chlamydia. I know it’s a fairly common and treatable std but I panicked a bit when I found out.
I always get tested before and after each new partner and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for 2 years now. I know I got tested before my current partner and it came back clean. Not only that but I had a been scare about 6 months into dating my current partner and went to go get a test. I went to get tested and I had bv, which I treated, but that test also came back clean for stds.
So my only logical conclusion is that I got chlamydia from my current partner. I was really confused about this because in the beginning of dating before we had S, I had made to sure to ask if he was clean and if he got tested recently. Based on this I was somewhat worried that I got it because he had slept with someone else during our relationship. But I didn’t make any accusations. I called and told him I had chlamydia and that he needed to get tested/treated.
I then asked him when was the last time he actually got an std test. It took a bit of questioning but he eventually admitted that he did not get an std test in between me and his previous ex.
So that really pissed me off and I pointed out that he lied when I asked him if he got tested and was clean in the beginning of our relationship. I asked him if he had anything to say to that. He got quiet and didn’t say anything. He just said that he would get tested and tell me the results. I pointed out that my chlamydia didn’t show up on the test I got when I had bv either which was weird because we had been having sex for about 5 months already (with a condom but we didn’t use condom or dental dam when doing oral and we had a couple of times where the rubber broke..). He didn’t say anything to that either. I said alright let me know when you’re getting tested then I hung up because I was pissed he wasn’t apologizing or admitting to anything or talking in general.
Basically now I’m just waiting until he gets tested and tells me. But it’s been three days and we haven’t talked and he hasn’t told me that he’s scheduled his test or anything. I don’t want to make any rash decisions until he gets his test results back. But I’m pissed. I don’t know how long I’ve had chlamydia and I know the longer you have the more at risk women are for PID and other complications.
I don’t see any other possibility other than him having it from his ex and passing it onto me or him acquiring it from someone else during our relationship. Is it wrong of me to assume this? And should I push for him to get his testing done faster? The waiting is really bothering me and he hasn’t said anything about scheduling it. Am I overreacting by thinking this is possibly breakup worthy?