Is it just me being insecure or it’s normal for a partner to think
this way? Basically I have a bf of a year plus and we are talking about marriage now. Something is bothering me from time to time….
He has a close female bff for close to a decade. By close, I mean they can discuss what’s their fav s** position with respective partners (yes both attached to different people), they are always there for each other during their lowest times (i.e. rs issues with partners or breakups, health scares etc). They basically know each other inside out except for the physical intimacy part which I choose to believe him in that they’ve never been intimate. All these translates to her knowing him more than me for sure.
Another issue I want to bring up is gifting. They gift generously to each other. Like X’mas presents, birthday gifts, housewarming gifts can cost more than $1k each. He gifts me generously as well, which I am not trying to compare here. My point is, I usually buy more affordable gifts within my budget like Airpod Pro for X’mas which I think is reasonable. On the other hand, this female bff will gift him an LV passport holder… she even mentioned she’s gonna buy him a OSIM massage chair that costs about $1k plus for his housewarming coming up in June. I know I shouldn’t let this bother me, but dont you all think this friendship is not ordinary?
Oftentimes, I feel less of a gf than she is. He constantly reassures me it’s their usual practice and I dont have to match up with the price, I can buy something I am comfortable to spend, but this situation always leaves some fleeting thoughts inside me? Will he compare the gifts he receives from bff vs me? You just imagine you received a gift of your fav gadget from ur bff, whereas your gf only buys you an extension or accessories of the gadget. Will you feel she bo xim? Haiz.
To be fair he is very assuring and always tell me if something’s gonna happen between them, it would have long ago in this 10 years. I always gave the same reply “because the time is not right yet” Right person + right time = BAM! And you never know.
After reading my story do you’ll think my insecurities and worries are valid? And your thoughts on this sticky situation pls?