ver since she started living with me I had a lot of my things borrowed and then lost. They were all small items and I just would go and buy another one.
I’m talking Covid masks, sweatpants, razors, socks etc.
But yesterday I realized 6 utensils were missing. She would take them to work and then they get stolen at work.
Now down 6 forks, I told her she needs to buy a new set to replace the ones she borrowed and lost and that moving forward anything else she borrows and it ends up getting lost/damaged must be reimbursed.
I’m done buying things with my own money for things she took and lost.
- It’s a basic rule of polite society that if you borrow something and break it, you get it fixed; if you borrow something and lose it, you replace it. If you borrow someone’s car, you return it with a full tank (or at least with as much as it had when you got it).
- I’m not sure her paying for the items is going to totally solve the issue. How does an adult lose sweatpants? Why is she always losing things? Is there something that needs to change behaviourally or in attitude?
- I doubt the forks are getting stolen at work. She is probably just too lazy to wash them and bring them back. Who would steal a fork?!?
- Why should you be the one to pay for her losing things? Asking her to reimburse you sounds weird tho, stick with asking her to replace the lost items as to not sound like you’re just out to get her money and make it obvious that you just want lost things to be replaced, which is totally reasonable if she’s a working adult.