Should I (31M) break up with my girlfriend (29F) for wanting to get married?
I (31M) have been dating my girlfriend (29F) for a little over a year now. We got along great, but as of late, she’s both pressuring me to get engaged and have a baby.
I have asked time and time again to wait until we both have our lives in order, as I want to finish school and get a place of my own.
My girlfriend does not work. She has some medical issues that prevent her from working. So in turn, I would take a massive portion of the financial responsibilities if we were to move in together, get married, and have a kid.
I have no problem with that, except at the moment, I can’t afford to live alone, much less a family. She keeps pushing, asking when all this will happen, and keeps saying she needs it soon.
I also feel like I have to walk on eggshells, due to some of her opinions not matching my own. And if we got into a basic discussion over something, she would get her point out, but as I begin mine, she’d demand to stop talking about it, which I comply.
I love her, but I think I’m no longer happy in this situation. What should I do?
Netizens’ comments
- If you’re not sure whether you’re happy in the situation then 100% do not bring a child into it
- She’s 29 and she’s a dependent and wants to be your dependent AND add another dependent (baby). If she’s disabled such that she can’t work, how is she going to take care of a child? Should she even be having kids? (Ie: is her condition genetic?)
I feel like she’s really rushing it and just wants to play house. It’s been a year. That’s a little soon.
And there are issues. Sounds like communication isn’t so good between you two. - If you’re not 100% sure then leave her so she can find someone who is. Women have “clocks” and it usually starts between 26-30. She’s not pressuring you purposely, it’s just something that happens to women at a certain age, we end up wanting marriage and children.
- This sounds like a fundamental incompatibility between you two. If that’s what she wants, let her go and don’t make her wait. I’m the meantime do not trust what she says to you about birth control and use extra protection.