Gf (23F) is awesome but completely lied about her past. I (24M) am worried
Our relationship is great, she is a truly good person, beautiful and we are excellent in the bedroom, no issues there.
The giant red flag is that she told me that before starting our relationship, she slept only with her previous boyfriend and they broke because he cheated on her.
A good friend in common told me that he slept with her in a 3 way with another man (40y) and he even showed me proof!!
He simply told me to be careful (they slept together before we started our relationship) because probably she was also with other men that she never mentioned.
I love her, she is great with me, we talk a lot, f extremely frequent and amazing but after this I don’t know if I really know her. Advices?
Netizens’ comments
- “I get that you may have been worried about my judgements regarding your history, but that’s for me to make decisions about, not you. If you want to say that you’re uncomfortable providing me information, then do that by saying, ‘I’m not ready to talk about [X] yet’, but do not lie to me.”
- For me, if a woman won’t tell me anything, I’ll be upfront and move on.
- My ex wife told me she only slept with 2 guys. I started hearing rumors that might not be true. She ended up cheating and leaving. Found out later it was easily close to 100. She was shared in multiple friend groups. My wife was nowhere close to a saint, but she has always been transparent. I don’t care about the number, but when you are lied to, huge red flag.
- This isn’t some huge mystery. She lied because she was embarrassed and afraid it would ruin the relationship before it even started. Obviously, lying isn’t a great start either, but either you asked, and she thought it would be a deal breaker for you, or she has experienced issues with it in the past and brought it up to try and get ahead of the game.