How to get over lying in relationship?
so just for context – gf and I used to be from the same office. she hated this one girl from my lunch clique because she was the manager of the girl and the girl can’t do her work properly hence she is mad at her.
So she told me she doesn’t like this girl and doesn’t like when I have lunch together even if it’s a group setting (never have I ever been to lunch alone with her or spoken to her about any personal life). I drew a very clear boundary and tried to avoid having lunch with my group on some days just to avoid the girl. I respected the relationship and didn’t question.
Recently we both found new jobs and she met a new guy colleague who stays the same area as her and takes the mrt home together. I am abit insecure I must say and I voiced out that I don’t like her going home alone with the guy. She said okay. However I already have this feeling that she is lying to me because she usually reply fast to my messages but when it’s between 530-6 when she’s traveling home her replies are slow and she told me she’s playing game or netflix. recently we got into a fight and she blurted out that she lied to me all this while. She was actually with him and she didn’t tell me.because she knew what my reaction would be.
I am super hurt and disappointed. She can’t even respect the relationship to avoid this new guy when I did all that for her when she hated the girl.
I am thinking if I should call it quits. I think lying is a deal breaker to me. Before you bash me for my reaction, I’d like to make it clear that I’ve never shouted at her, stopped her from talking to guys or ghost her etc.
My reaction was just this black face because I don’t like it. Why are girls such complicated people?
Here are what netizens think:
- Her liking for the other guy shows that her feeling for you has dwindled. It is a matter of time that she will jump ship. Don’t waste your effort on her. Move on.
- Move on, there are better females out there who are more suited for relationship and marriage. You just have to find them at the right places. Haha.
- This gf didn’t seem to present herself to be a reliable and an accountable partner. Moreover, she lied. Time to move on.
- Lying is a fundamental issue to break trust. So, if you think it is so important to you, then you know the answer.