My boyfriend and I play games together almost everyday. I am not very good, but not that bad either. As a professional gamer, my boyfriend tends to scold me a lot and express his disappointment when I make a “stupid” move or play, or when I died in the game. However, for me, it didn’t really matter if we lose as I just want to enjoy the process of playing game with him. We had argued over this issue countless times, and I now dread playing games with him.
Recently, a new friend that I met in school played the same game. We played together a lot and he seems to be quite nice about it and not get angry when I die. He always ask me to try again and don’t give up when we lost. I enjoy playing the game with him because I am genuinely having fun and didn’t have to worry about making mistakes and getting scolded. I look forward to playing game with this new friend that I made.
Is this normal? Is that cheating in anyway or am I making any mistake? I genuinely just wanted to play a game for fun and there are no feelings involved but I don’t know why I felt so bad about it…
Here are what netizens think:
- The fact that he scolds and mocks you when you don’t measure up to his standards ingame, says alot about his character overall. And it’s not a good outlook.
- His negative style of teaching is demoralizing! Whereas, your other friend has a positive teaching approach and encourages you to improve when you make mistakes! He makes learning fun! People are him a good teachers.
- Speaking from around 20 years of gaming experience dating back to Half-Life deathmatch. Change games first to something more forgiving. Some games like Dota with specialised abilities and long cooldowns place very high demands on each person playing their part at the correct time, and mistakes are glaring and obvious, inviting blame.
- It’s like mahjong, how someone reacts when playing games or mahjong can tell you what their personality is like. My ex used to act like him when playing games, toxic and blames others (she always makes the mistake. IRONIC) the worst part is how they take it out on you. If they react the way they do over a game where it’s meant to be fun, can you imagine what they might do if you argue with them?
- I think you should break up and go with the new guy. Regardless, break up with your current bf whether the new guy wants you. You will confirm have a hard time once married with baby.