A netizen took her story online to share about her relationship dilemma. She is currently in a relationship with his BF since they met in JC 3 years ago. However, she developed feelings for another guy that she met in hall.
She has no intention of hurting her BF while he is in the army, but she still texts and hangout with the other guy in hall. She developed feelings for the other guy as he helped out with her studies, while talking to each other for a year.
However, the other guy started ghosting her since summer and she does not know how to communicate with him. She feels bad as she still wanted to be friends with this guy, but thinks that it is impossible due to the current situation.
Here is her story:
“Is it wrong to like somebody else when you are attached? I have been in a serious relationship for about 3 years now since JC.
My BF is still in the army and I love him very much and do not plan on hurting his feelings. But I also find myself needlessly texting and hanging out with this guy in hall.
I don’t ever compare the two of them, its just hanging around him for a year has made me developed feelings, especially when he has always been helping me with my academics.
Now that Summer has started, we don’t see each other as much but I still long to see his texts and want to hang out.
We were such good friends before Summer but now he is starting to ghost me and I no longer know how to talk to him.
I feel bad because even if we have no feelings, I still want to be a close friend of his, but at the rate that he is pushing me away, it will not be possible.
I understand that people might say that he is backing off because I am attached, but I never intended to get together with him or anything, just remain as friends.
This topic is so hard to talk to people about especially because I am attached and I fear people will judge me. Most people won’t even want to hear me out and immediately say Im in the wrong.
This is not the advice I want to hear. Others might say I should go and talk to my friend and settle things between us, but the problem is we are not even talking now and I dont wanna lose him as a friend.
My BF is super possessive and if i ever let him know about these feelings, Im scared that he will break up with me and call me a cheater.
Do yall think I am emotionally cheating? How do I talk to someone when he is ghosting me? He is giving me one word replies even if I say it is urgent…
Idk anymore I’m a mess.. I didn’t expect this to happen but it seems that I am incapable of handling my own emotions.
Has anyone ever had the experience of liking someone else other than your significant other? Please let me know!”
Source: NUSWhispers