I M(25) have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. We’re both part time university students and full-time workers.
I lucked out and got a decent job making around $60-65k a year depending on sales and also have a rental property that nets around $300 a month.
My GF works as a Dental Assistant making and work 36 hours a week equates to roughly $30k a year with bonuses.
I’ve always usually paid for things because I knew I made more money. Recently we moved in together and I was ok with paying for most everything because I was under the impression my GF had no money so I wanted her to save up and didn’t want to burden her, as her schooling is more difficult than mine.
She would always say that she has no money because of the bills that she has to pay. My GF got her car paid for by her dad, gets university for free through work. So she pays car insurance and whatever she spends on her credit card.
I on the other hand had to put down all the deposits for the apartment. I currently pay $2k for rent plus roughly $400 for all other utilities. On top of that I still have to pay my car note and my college tuition.
My GF does helps out buying some groceries and helps with laundry. But groceries for the month don’t equal $2400.
Recently my GF left a bank receipt out and I with her total savings amount that I happened to take a glance at which turned out to be $40k in a savings account.
Now I’m questioning why I’m paying so much more of our living expenses. We recently got into an argument of money and I brought up her savings account. My GF got mad that I found out and is accusing me of snooping around her stuff. And now is trying to say that I make almost double so I should pay for most of the expenses.
So i need to know if I am wrong for asking her to help pay more?