I made a post on Twitter about my mental health declining (which it has been absolutely since i moved to be with my bf.) we’re having a lot of issues and it’s just really hard for me to process things as i lost my whole support system (my family) and i feel so alone here. i didn’t mention anything about my relationship or situation in the tweet, it was just more so a bit of an apology for the image i had been portraying recently.
so last night i received a message from my bf’s ex wife.
“Hello, this is probably the hardest thing I will ever do, and please don’t think this has to do with who your with… but more so your mental health. One of your tweets popped up on my feed about your mental health, and I had to message you…
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that every one of [his] exes pops antidepressants and anti psychotics now… I don’t think it’s a coincidence that he also asked you to move, he isolated me from family, trapped me into paying a expensive car and refuses to get anything cheaper… took all my money, watched my mental health deplete to not being able to leave the bed (you think im exaggerating… I didn’t work for 6 months because I would BLACKOUT) PLEASE DO NOT LET YOUR MENTAL HEALTH GET TO WHERE MINE WENT…
I KNOW what he is like. I freaking married the guy, and I know… that my mental health issues were because of the way he treated me, and gas-lit me, and made everything seem like it was my problem to deal with on my own, how he doesn’t lift a finger and expects you to be a housewife AND still go to work and help with bills…. because people.. don’t.. change… not people like him, with his god-like Kanye complex, he will never change and he will never help you better yourself because he is only here to better himself. I don’t KNOW your relationship, I don’t know anything about you, or frankly, anything about him anymore….
But what I can say is I went through major depression for 3 years, and before [him] I was fine, and after him I have NEVER been MENTALLY better. Block me, ignore me, do what you need to. But… before you get to where every one of his exes is… see that the history is repeating itself. Take care”
So, I haven’t told him yet. And I don’t think I want too. I’ve been afraid of a lot of the things she said before she said them.
Made excuses. I just don’t really know how to get out. I don’t know if I’m just looking for advice? or support? i’m just terrified now tbh.