My girlfriend said I was small down there and laughed at me when I was being vulnerable.
This has been bothering me a lot and I just want to vent into the void. I’ve been dating this woman for a couple a months now, but we have been friends for a while before we started dating.
We have not slept together much since we’ve been together, but she saw my private parts for the first time a few weeks ago.
I’m okay with what I have, and other people I’ve been with enjoy it. I’ve had insecurities in the past, but my other partners got me through it.
We had an awkward conversation where it came up and she was honest with me that it is not as big as I thought it was.
I’ve already been feeling really insecure about the relationship and when I was being vulnerable and started to break down with her and she laughed at me which I think was the worst part.
She did try to console me. I acted like everything was fine afterwards and that was it. Now I’m sitting here emotional and not even sure what to do next.
To give more clarity. (32m) and (35f). It was me being vulnerable about the whole relationship, and my feelings about it, and my insecurities about us in general not about my size.
I wasn’t insecure about it until she made me feel insecure. Never brought up my size before. She talked about her previous exes being small before this.
This brings in more insecurities if we break up will she just talk about me like this and be mean?
Netizens’ comments
- If that’s her behaviour with something so delicate, I don’t wanna know her behaviour in other topics. Let her go and maybe next time you will someone more supportive.
- That is definitely not ok. It does not matter what the topic is about, it does not matter if you are a male or female. If someone is insecure or upset about something you handle it/them with compassion, kindness and care and you definitely do not laugh at them. Because if the tables had been turned and she had come to you, the outcome of you laughing at her would be extremely different.
- Yeah you should break up. I am a small guy, was in a 7 year relationship with a woman who had plenty of experiences with guys twice my size. Well, she did make a joke about my size once, it was actually funny, and by that point our relationship was just about over. My point is if a woman cares about you she won’t make fun of it.