My girlfriend (18f) wants me (19m) to wear two condoms, but has said she will never go on birth control.
The other day my girlfriend and I were talking about our bedroom activities as we often do, and our want to do it, and we began talking about protection and anti baby measures.
She said she would not want to be and will not ever be on birth control. And that protection will basically be 100% on me, since the only reason she would get pregnant is because of, you guessed it: me.
I didnt care very much at first since I was planning on wearing a condom anyway so we don’t become young parents.
But she then tells me that one isn’t gonna cut it, and that I needed to wear two (or more) if I wanted to ever sleep with her. Which I thought was harsh and hypocritical.
I know I would be the reason she would be getting pregnant if I failed to use protection, but Im not the only one who wants to F. She arguably wants to do it more than I do.
I told her I thought she was being harsh and hypocritical, and she said she wasnt. She was only trying to “protect her body and future.” I said alright, and that if thats what she wants to do then we should just stick with hand stuff and oral until shes ready to discuss it again.
Am I wrong in thinking it’s unfair that she wont get on any birth control and wants me to be the only one who uses protection?
Should I just do what she says and not press the idea of getting birth control any further? This isnt a matter thats gonna break the relationship over, its just an annoyance that occurs when we talk about it
Netizens’ comments
- Two condoms will result in condom failure. The friction can cause them to break.
You can have PIV, but the efficiency of condoms in typical use is in the 80s% iirc
To be more safe, you could use condoms and track her cycle together to minimize her fertility if you decide to have PIV. - Using 2 condoms runs a very high chance of one or both ripping. It doesn’t sound like she’s ready for this next step.