I started to fall for my boyfriend’s friend.
I’m falling in love with my boyfriend’s friend (let’s call him H here). Something about H attracted me a lot. It started few months back and I thought it might be just a silly crush.
I don’t always hang out with H. It’s always in a group. But somehow he caught my attention. I don’t think he is interested in me because he just got out of a relationship. And obviously, I am attached. I will not act on it but these few days H is constantly on my mind.
Few days back, we were all out drinking together, and the club got crowded and we all wanted get out of the place. So my boyfriend was standing in front, he hold my hand and signalled me to hold whoever is behind me and let’s get out of the dance floor.
So H was behind me, and I didn’t think much and just grab his hand. Out of all the guy friends that I had would not respond when I grab their hand, or just stiffed up their hand, but H actually readjusted his hand so that we could hold each other’s hand properly. I felt the sparks in that short 10 sec. I feel guilty and happy at the same time.
I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I’m with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. Should I talk to my boyfriend about this feeling or just let it go away? Please help. I know I will not act on it. Just need some advice before I do something that I’ll regret.
Thank you in advanced.
Here are what netizens think:
- Let it go. Telling your boyfriend will only make him feel uncomfortable, and you already know you won’t act on it no matter what, so don’t put him in a spot. That crush you’re experiencing is only temporary and will fade.
- I think with the presence of this crush of yours, there’s already a problem within your relationship. If you don’t love your bf anymore, better to break up, heal and move on without taking any action on his friend. There’s always karma.
- Let me first warn you, if you break up with your bf and go with H then things might get ugly because he is your boyfriend’s friend. They 2 will definitely fall out as friend or some may even fight because of you. Do you want that to happen? Ask yourself do you still love your boyfriend? If yes, honestly tell your bf you still love him but somehow you got this crush. Tell your bf not to bring you out in group when H is around. Let time erase this crush. If your boyfriend is mature enough he will understand you tell him out of love and he will know what to do.
- I bet your bf doesn’t have a brother else I’m sure you would have fallen for him.