Hi everyone, I am an NUS year 1 student, and also an NS GF.
I am facing some issues as an NS GF and would like to get some advice from the public, especially from people of NUSWhispers since I have seen several NS stories on this platform.
During the past 1 year, my BF has barely initiated calling me while he was in the army and I had eventually grown tired of always initiating it.
His reasons were always that he was tired, busy, or whatever it could be, but I could catch him sometimes online on gaming platforms.
I understand that calling everyday could be very uneventful or dreading for him as I feel that he has nothing to talk to me about, but I hope that he’d at least try to call me once a week if he wasn’t so tired. I asked some of my NS GF gals in one of my module and they told me that they often have conversations at night with their boyfriend, event if it was just for 5 minutes.
My BF would also share his army stories with me when he books out and occasionally tells me stories through text if it was interesting enough for him to rush to share the story. However, despite appreciating that he is willing to share his stories with me, he always utilise army slangs despite me having already told him probably more than 10 times that I hoped he could use simpler terms because I am not familiar with the slangs that he was using with me. As a result, I find myself constantly searching online for the slangs and even asking my guy friends in class about the meaning behind those slangs that he was using as he does not try to explain to me what the slang means. For a real life example, the slang “turn out”, when questioned, would be explained by him as “basically like just turning out lo”…
I really hope people of this page could give me advice on what I should do with this situation and how I can better improve this tragic barrier between us. Thank you in advance everyone.