My gf hates my family and says and does mean things to them secretly, but I love her. What should I do?
My gf and I have been together for almost 4 years now. We are staying together in my family’s home. We grew up in completely different backgrounds so naturally we would have different upbringing. Before we got together, I had brought 2 very important points to her and that is my family is very important to me and if she can get along with them, it would mean the world to me. And if she can’t, I would really appreciate her being courteous towards them. I feel like my parents have been treating her so nicely and doesn’t disrespect her in any way because she is who I chose. But it has been almost 4 years and she hasn’t shown any basic respect at all (eg: greeting my parents when she sees them when we/she return home). And honestly to me, this is a huge disrespect. I had sat her down and talked about this so many times, but it just doesn’t seem to be working.
Recently she also confessed me out of guilt that she contaminates my parent’s food / drinks with my dog’s urine and that is freaking unhygienic and disgusting. I was too stunned to speak when she confessed. I didn’t know what to do or say at all… It has been a week and we haven’t talked yet. She keeps saying she’s very apologetic but I really do not know if I am able to get pass this. I honestly fear for my family’s safety if this continues because I don’t know what will happen in the future if she gets annoyed at them again… And as a cherry on top, she is living here rent free and does not help out in any chores at all.
I love her a lot and really wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, but after hearing her confession I really don’t know what to do or feel now.
Help……
Here are what netizens think:
- Contaminating anyone’s food on purpose is totally unacceptable! Furthermore, they are old folks, her future parents-in-law! For a moment, I even doubted what I was reading was real. Her character and moral value is in question! Pls ask yourself, do you want to continue living with one that has such a distorted mind? U know the ans actually. I wouldn’t even keep such person as a friend, all the more a life partner. For once, let your brain takes over your heart before things get worse after marriage. There are better ladies out there! Go find one that’s kind at heart. The one that u have now obviously has an evil heart.
- Time to go. Lacing food with dog urine is a strict no go. I do not even want to be acquainted with a person capable of doing that, even to an annoying stranger, much less from someone who might be a life partner.
- Bro…she contaminated food and drinks with dog urine and you still need to consider to leave her or not?……don’t know which is the bigger red flag man……just leave her alr, that’s not what a normal human being will do.
- Simply not acceptable. Not acknowledging your parents is one thing. Contaminating their food is another whole level. What are you waiting for??? Ditch her now!!!!