Posting this in this group because somehow I feel that my trust has been broken with lies and deceit. Apologies for my rant.
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years. We are currently in a long distance relationship. I take care of her and have never said no to her when it comes to buying anything she wants.
I fulfill all her needs and demands with a smile on my face as l love to pamper her a lot. She has access to all my credit cards and I never question her if she uses them to buy anything because I love her a lot. Few days ago, I found out that she used her ex’s credit card to buy some expensive makeup stuff (approx. $1000). Her ex has been trying to get back with her desperately since past few years.
He constantly sends her messages/emails to get her back. I completely ignored it as I always put my trust in my girlfriend (there were times when it was shaken, but I let it go). When I confronted her, at first she denied it and told me that she bought it by herself (why lie in the first place?).
Knowing her, I knew she wouldn’t buy all the expensive stuff by herself. Later I realized that she had used a credit card provided to her by her ex through email. He had added her as an “authorized user” and she blatantly went ahead and used that credit card. When I asked her about it, she asked me to stay out of it and told me that she did it out of her spite towards him. I thought why wouldn’t you tell me then? Why would you not tell me this in confidence? I wouldn’t have known about this as she was never going to tell me about this. When I tried to talk and questioned her about it, it ended up into an argument with her blaming me for all other stuff and she buried this topic completely. I am not sure what else is happening behind my back.
I’m feeling very hopeless and lost as she broke my trust. Being a person who is providing almost everything to her for last 3 years, I just cannot stand and watch her using another man’s money. I would completely understand her actions if I was not providing her with anything.
I have sacrificed my own needs to fulfill her needs/demands and this has shaken me down. I have literally zero access to any of her accounts. We have also been sharing our Amazon account for last 3 years using my credit card. Again, I have NEVER stopped her from buying anything (spent almost five digit sum on Amazon for her personal stuff/comfort/needs) Couple of days back, she created her own.
I’m not sure what to do. Few hundred miles between us is also not helping at this point. Please advise.