My gf takes so long to get “wet” that by the time she’s ready for me to go in I’m too tired and turned off
I spend about 45 minutes to an hour on foreplay to get my gf aroused. It takes so long that I get soft because of how tired I am.
Her and I have talked about it and Ive suggested that if she knows she wants to bang, why doesn’t she start playing with herself time before we get into it.
She said she shouldn’t have to do it herself and when I rush her it makes it feel like I’m just using her.
When I don’t have work taking long for foreplay is not an issue. A lot of this has to do with me working. I work 12 hour shifts 4-6 days a week.
When I get home from work I’m a dead body I try to work up enough energy to get active in bed with her before I have to be up at 5:30 the next morning for work.
She said she doesn’t like when I come home, bangs her and go to sleep as it makes her feel like a quickie and cheap, so I even proposed that we don’t do it when I’m that tired we can just cuddle to sleep.
Her response to that was she doesn’t want to not do it as she has needs too. I’ve tried explaining that when I get home at 8 pm I’m tired I want to eat hang out then sleep and I can’t spend 45 hours getting you aroused.