I’m 31, have been with my boyfriend M, 37 (who’s a single dad with 2 boys) for 2 years. He has a decent job with a decent income and sports as a hobby.
For Days, Bdays and every other celebration, He’d gift me mostly jewellery and I get him his favourite gadgets or sports gear. For this Valentine I got him sneakers, I found out today that his gift for me was a handmade wooden framed photo of him, me, and the kids. I gotta say I wasn’t thrilled with it.
When I told my boyfriend my honest opinion (I didn’t wanna open my mouth but he pushed me) He said he couldn’t believe this was my reaction but I pointed out that he has money for a $2,000 necklace at least so I could wear it at the engagement party.
But he said I was out of line to imply he was being cheap when all he was doing was to make me a special gift and also had the kids help with it and put so much thought and effort into it because they see me like family and I should be appreciative of that.
I said I was but still thought he could’ve added the necklace as a great combo but he got even madder saying he couldn’t understand why I’d value a necklace as much as or even over a special gift he and the kids made for me.
We went back and forth on this and breakfast got ruined. He went upstairs and refused to speak to me. I feel like he blew this out of proportion since he asked for my opinion and I don’t know if he has the right to be upset with me now.
Here are what netizens think:
- superficial materialistic pok pok gei . Just because he can afford it does not mean he has to buy it. You are judging his love for you based on the price of the item. Sounds just like the chicken i paid for.
- So you don’t have enough jewellery yet? How many necks do you have?
- it’s weird to always expect high-value gifts, especially on Valentine’s Day. Not a great way to take a gift symbolically adding you to the family. Wear the first necklace he ever gave you to the party… literally can’t imagine wanting new jewelry every year how boring