A netizen shared his side of the story after being criticised publicly by his (relationship status unclear, former?) fiancee.
Here is the story:
In response to *see linked post at the bottom* I am that guy who did not “care” about the proposal, wedding, and house.
I admit I am a very horrible person that made a lot of mistakes in life, I have gambled heavily, spent money on stupid stuff (can’t manage my finances), dabbled in cryptocurrency, made too many female friends, and never treated you right. Do I regret all of these? No, because they made me a better person to who I am today. And I have you to thank for that at the very least.
Yes, we were together for 4 years in a relationship that was always on and off. We broke up and patched back many times due to many disagreements and faults with me. I was the one that was being dumped most of the time and being the one apologizing for my mistakes. She will always make it a point that making the same mistake is not a mistake, it’s a choice. And so, I have to learn to live with my choices and bear the wrath of her.
Our most recent breakup was in October 2021, when I had to “obtain” a minimum of $80,000 I kept back with my parents if not I had to leave my family for good. Well, I was about $5000 from hitting the target (I had $5000 worth of gold but she only accepted cash), eventually, I moved out of the house but she decided to break up with me again because I pissed her off and I ended up back with my family. This money would be used to purchase a resale HDB in a good location (her list of criteria on the property includes, balcony, good location, appreciating property, friendly agent, North-South Orientation, and good rental yield) , on top of CPF and whatever else cash in hand.
We only got back together in November 2021, and I was given a budget of only $300 to plan a proposal. I still had to find a photographer. Also we recently quarreled in December 16th, also her father reminded me that my time was almost up and that he would kick me out from the house and I will never be able to enter it again. So with all the quarrels, instability of the relationship and frequent outbursts of anger due to my mistakes, how would I feel about a proposal? I’m sure many guys would have already given up, but because there’s still love left for her, I decided to stick with it and do what I can. As time was of the essence and the budget was too, I did with what I could find.
I admit I am not the most detailed on the design of the ring and should have went with a better jeweler, but she was not comfortable on me spending a lot on the design of the ring, hence I went for the most affordable option. I spent quite a bomb on a diamond, despite it being a lab-created diamond it was pretty big (1.8+ carat, VS1, Ideal Cut) and impressive to me, and as a bonus, I decided to upgrade her diamond earrings to a bigger one at the same time. But guess what? She said she preferred a NATURAL Diamond because it retains value and wanted to return the ring and told me to sell them off. Because a natural diamond is real and a lab-created one is not.
I work 2 jobs in a day, in the day I would be working as a sales executive trying to close deals and hit the target or I’ll get kicked out, and in the night I would be working as a marketer running my own small business with my GF. I am busy AF, I still had to squeeze in additional time to look at property and start planning for a wedding. The wedding does not include my family in the list, because my family is against her and she is against them. Apart from the fact of trying to keep my GF happy and also needed the time workout to get fit for a pre-wedding photoshoot, I have too many things going on that I can’t focus. Is there bound to be mistakes? Yes. But again, she would say, a mistake repeated is a choice. So I guess it’s my choice that I made a mistake.
Most of the profits from the small business goes to her salary (I agreed that I would contribute $1,500 every month to her in the early stages of the relationship when she left her job) while I don’t take any except for the occasional small bonuses. I pay for everything else in the relationship, groceries for her and her mother, food, bills, everything using money earned on my own.
Throughout the year of 2021, I have bought for her many gifts to keep her happy. The latest being a brand new Chanel Boy. In total, she has 5 LVs and 1 Chanel.
I have paid for all the trips we went overseas and stayed for a few months back then.
I would like to say that I’m not a perfect person let alone a perfect boyfriend and a future husband. I am bound to make mistakes in my life and will continue to do so until the day I die.