I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. He is very loving towards me.
When we first met, he put in more effort in his appearance, like going to the gym and dressing up more.
However, as we start to get comfortable with each other, he stopped doing that. I still continue to do that for myself though. I did hint for him to start hitting the gym (and even offered to go together with him), as well as buying beauty products so he can groom himself better.
Another thing is people around me constantly remind me that he is not good looking.
And that hurts me as well, because I don’t like it when people say such things about my boyfriend. But I’m trying my best to help him doll up as well. He doesn’t seem to appreciate it though, he sees it as me not loving him as he is. I do love him, I just wish for him to be more presentable, especially when he goes out to work, looking smart gives him a better impression.
Am I wrong for doing so? For wanting my boyfriend to put more effort into his appearance.
Here are what netizens think:
- U can answer that question yourself: if u’re ok for him to tell u what to wear, what make-up to use, and suggest things about your body to improve, then u’re just doing what u would like him to do for you. Explain that to him.
- If u’re ok with him telling u that his friends say u’re not good looking, and your body is not ideal, etc etc, then great! Let’s all be transparent and communicate openly.
- But if u’re NOT okay with that because u think it’s shallow, superficial, crude and misogynistic, then I suggest u stop.
- Other pple’s opinion of your BF is actually none of your business. You’re being extra by making it your business.