Relationship over 1.5 years
I’m wondering if every guys are like that…
Before I accepted my boyfriend, he used to spent alot of time (til late night or very early in the morning) on me even though he had work or school tomorrow. He also stopped some friendship (cause of some issues that isn’t related to our relationship), thus he doesn’t meet up with his friends very often. However, right now whenever we meet after his work or so. He would tell me he want to go home early because he have school or work tomorrow. Through calls he would be tired and sleep really early.
These days, his friends came to find him back and now they are hanging out late at night (not going clubbing or so, just chill and talk). However, his still have the same schedule as how he hangs out with me. But he stayed way beyond 8pm. Moreover, he stayed until 1am still! When he always tell me that he needs 8hours of sleep.
Does he lose feelings for me? Is every guys like this? I still love him deeply and he feels the same.
In other hand, I am always available and i dont pressure him on anything (materialistic & educations etc). And whenever he needs me, I’ll be there even though i have less than 4-6hrs of sleep most of the time due to my busy schedule.
What does this mean…
Here are what netizens think:
- you have passed the honeymoon stage. Now the real work starts. Do you know what makes a woman attractive to a man? A woman is most attractive when you have your own life and interests. When you’re confident, independent and supportive. To sustain the relationship you need to discuss with him about ways to nurture the relationship. You can’t pour from an empty cup. So you need to take care of yourself first. First and foremost, your social needs. He can’t be your everything. That is exhausting to any human being. In short, don’t be needy. Do the things you used to do when you’re single. Meet the friends that you used to meet before you’re attached. So when date night comes, the 2 of you will be missing each other and will have plenty to share.
- He was willing to spend more time with you at the start because he’s trying to court you. But when he no longer needs to “convince you to be with him”, he will naturally do what’s comfortable. And what’s more comfortable than hanging out with your close friends? I assume you have your own close friends and interests too, but I’m pretty sure anyone who is serious about their relationship, would perceive their partners as a close friend too, and wouldn’t prioritise their partner LESS than their friends. At the very least, it should be the same (which you have made clear, is not the case).
- Couples should read up on “personal space “ and even as married couples , respect each other personal space yet can find time for each other / family/ kids / parents. Communicate well yea .