For this post I’ll call my friend Julia. She passed away five years ago. She was my first and best friend growing up. Our families are close so we have been friends since we were babies.
There was no romantic feelings ever. Just a best friend/sister. She died from a car accident. Saddest moment in my life was hearing that news.
I have a lot of tattoos on both of my arms and back. I got her name tattooed with a heart around it and a date.
I’ve been dating my current girlfriend for the last two years and it’s great. I love her a lot. We really work as a couple.
She asked me why I have a “Julia” with a heart tattooed on me and I understand why that would be off-putting.
Like if she had “Steve” in a heart I would be curious as well. I told her about it and she thought it was sweet but over time I can tell whenever I take off my shirt and she sees that Julia tattoo it irks her.
I told her that she was just my friend but she is upset. She seems really put off by this and I don’t know how to explain.
Any time I tell her about how deep our friendship was she gets more upset. I want to mend this problem but it also has me worried about future relationships now.
Is this going to be a deal breaker in the future? Julia was my best friend and it was never romantic. She would make handcrafted necklaces and jewelry and I have one of them hanging from my mirror in my car and I don’t think that is weird.
My girlfriend is very understanding usually so her reacting this way is new to me. It’s making me wonder if doing this is a bad thing