I was days away from my proposal to my ex-gf. She has this avoidant dismissive personality.
She dreams to be a tai tai and I have no issues with that. She recently quit her job and wanted me to temporarily support her. I couldn’t provide much but I would offer to pay for meals, etc. on top of that, she expects me to pay for almost everything because she’s “not working”.
We often quarrelled about money because both of us have very differing views about money. To me, money is just like a commodity, it’s plastic. What’s more important is the experience we spent tgt. One day, she told me that she would feel more secure if I were to put some money with her.
I was super hesitant but one night, thinking that I would spent the rest of my life with this girl (days away from proposal and house paid for already), I trf her everything I had >$10k and only kept $1k for my own expenses.
The very next day she wanted a break up and insisted that the money was a gift to her. In my WhatsApp message, I had explicitly stated that this money is for our wedding, house, Reno, etc.
I really want back the money and think that she’s a gold digger but she claims she isn’t. Can anyone advise what can be done?
Here are what netizens think:
- Make a police report… Bring her to court lo
- Why so kumgong one
- Report to the police. Tell her parents and tell us her name leh.
- you got scammed. Better than maintaining her for the rest of your life. Run while you can.
- Lolololol. She’s a genius. If she caught 10 of your kind 100k in her bank in 1 night.
- You have dodged a bullet. Be grateful you still have your youth and can make back the money. But you will not be able to get back your sanity and time once you have committed to her.
- 10K tuition fees…ok lar…imagine u married her….just the wedding would be above this amount…and we haven’t even touched on the divorce.
- It’s ok man, once transferred all will be gone. Just save more, money can earn back.
- U guys are totally not suitable for each other. It’s actually a blessing that u split.
- Congratulations!! U dodge a BULLET! I know men who in their 40s divorced end up with NOThInG not even CPF because wife gets everything. Take this 10k as a lesson learned unless there is a IOU, even if u go to court you may not win.