A Singaporean girl recently posted on her frustration after her boyfriend has never said I love you to her for the whole duration of their relationship. She even stated on how he would try to evade her questions when she talks about marriage matters or the application of BTO.
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What do you do when your boyfriend never says “I love you”?
My bf and I have been together for about a year and a half but he never says I love you. Slightly more than a year ago, we had a huge fight and almost broke up. He said he saw no future with me. But then I managed to convinced him to give us both another chance and here we are, 1 year on.
On the surface, we looked like any other couple. Meeting each other on a regular basis, going to each other’s home like it’s our own home. He treats me really well too and both our parents did drop hints about us getting married as well . But throughout the year, he never tells me that he loves me. He never once mentioned about applying for a bto. He never once talked about our future.
As my friends around me start to settle down one by one, I start to feel a little worried. As I was afraid of pressuring him if I asked him directly, I tried to drop hints by saying things like “omg xxx got proposed to”, “xxx managed to get the Bishan bto, so lucky”. On the rare occasions when we happen to be discussing on the topic, I would ask him things like if he preferred bto or ec, ask him which wedding photographer style he likes, ask him if he would wear the Chinese traditional costume on the wedding day or even what skills he would want his kids to pick up in the future. But somehow… he would always evade my questions and end it as there. I don’t even dare to use terms like “our wedding”, “our kids”. It’s always “your wedding”, “your kids”.
In the past year, I texted him “I love you” 22 times. He didn’t say it a single time. Not even “love you too”. It would always be either blatant ignore and change topic or a heart sticker.
I’m left extremely confused in this situation. Does he love me? Or is he staying in this relationship just for the physical satisfaction? I don’t know but I feel that one year should be long enough for someone to know if they want a future with their partner.
It’s the year end holidays and we were supposed to spend it together before things get real busy in Jan. But I just texted him to take both a break from each other for the next few days and meet only on 1st jan (because we already bought tickets to our planned activity). Perhaps that can get him some alone time to rethink about us. If he decides to break up with me, at least I’ll be starting 2021 afresh. Hope I did the right thing.