My boyfriend of almost 2 years is SO BAD in bed that I just want to break up with him instead of ‘teaching’ him how to be better.
I’m 22 and he’s 28. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. Not once in 2 years has he tried to make me come when we get intimate in bed.
He will rub me (in the wrong spot usually) for maybe 2 minutes and then he moves on to sticking his D in me and he isn’t gentle at first which hurts.
He shoves it in there and goes as hard as he can. He usually takes a really really long time to finish and I usually end up getting too sore to continue before he can finish.
I go down on him almost every time. He doesn’t go down on me. When we first started dating, I was a naive 20 year old and didn’t think his not trying to make me come was a big deal.
I was also too shy to tell him what I like / want and he never initiated that conversation either.
I do love him but I don’t want to have bad experiences in the bedroom for the rest of my life and I feel like it’s too late to have the conversation.
Also, if he hasn’t gone down on me so far, it’s probably something he doesn’t enjoy doing which I don’t want to pressure him to do.
Netizens’ comments
- I’m not sure what the goal of your post is? Because people will tell you that yes he should not be like this but this is also partially on you because you just don’t communicate AT ALL. You also seem convinced that you want to end it instead of doing anything to improve this situation so what exactly do you want?
- If neither of you ever initiates the conversation it won’t ever happen. So your choices are to either talk to him and hope he listens or bail. Sounds like you’ve already came to that conclusion yourself.
- You don’t communicate with him, and you’ve let it go for TWO YEARS, so anything you say to him at this point won’t be seen as constructive but instead hurtful. I’m not sure what you are looking for here? Permission from others to break up with him?