Girlfriend has an insane libido – how do I keep up without losing my manhood?
My girlfriend is amazing. She’s everything I could hope for. Career, looks, smart, funny and exactly what I had hoped for and what was missing my last relationship – a great drive to F.
Problem is, it’s too “great”. So much so that it gets in the way of work, my “me” time, etc. basically, if we’re not already occupied with something, we’re f-ing. Multiple times a day is a given.
A lot of times, she doesn’t ask for much. She’ll do her thing and I can sit back and she’s completely fine with that. Problem is, for some reason, I don’t want to anymore – atleast not all the time. No issues with getting it up, I just don’t find myself in the mood.
Two questions
Am I crazy and should just go with it?
How do I tell her I can’t always do it without hurting her feelings or seeming lame?
Netizens’ comments
- No I get it. Too much of a good thing can ruin a great thing. Have you tried to talk to her? Communicate with her on how you feel. You can see if maybe there are things you can do as a couple to try to exert her libido through physical outlets such as, exercising, yoga, that type of thing. I know that helps me, exercising or running. Both my partner and I both have high libidos. Mine is a bit higher than his. It’s all about compromise and communication
- Honestly…I’d like to know the answer too. Once a day would be fantastic in my mind but everyone’s situations are different. My bf has a heart transplant and doesn’t have a high drive and I do (I didn’t have one at all before him), but he just tells me he isn’t in the mood and I ask later or I pass for the day. We don’t live together. I wish it was more but what can you do if someone doesn’t have a drive as high as you? In my opinion, if everything else is perfect then this is the compromise. I wouldn’t trade him for the world.
- OP: You’re trying to thread an impossible needle.
You can’t simultaneously hold your own boundaries while also trying to avoiding hurting someone’s feelings.
If you spend too much time trying to please others, you risk losing yourself.