My (M23) girlfriend’s (F20) gay best friend (M20?) gropes her and touches her body a lot… it makes me uncomfortable
I was on the phone today with my girlfriend (who i’ve been with for a little over a month), and she told me that she was at work with her gay best friend and he was slapping her butt today.
When i responded saying “huh?” she said “yeah he touches me all of the time but it’s okay because he is gay.”
I responded saying that it made me uncomfortable and she really didn’t understand how or why. She asked if we could just talk about it later and hung up, but am I crazy for this making me uncomfortable?
I don’t really know how to feel, and she doesn’t seem like she wants to change this at all because according to her, they are best friends and that’s what their relationship is like.
Edit: She just texted me saying that she’s sorry and was being selfish, she said that my emotions were valid and she will ask her friend to show affection to her in other ways. She said that she will get better at taking my emotions into account.
WTF wasn’t expecting her response to be like that but i guess i’m good now, she’s the best. thanks everyone!
Netizens’ comments
- I worked with a guy once that claimed to be gay… He got away with a lot, until people found out he was married with 3 kids.
- It’s always the gay best friend. Who turns out to not be gay. Good luck
- Dating for a month…if this is actually a really big dealbreaker for you, then make it clear that it’s over if it continues.
- If it’s just annoying to you, let it slide until you’ve been together long enough that your opinion on something like this will hold more weight in her mind.
- You’re not crazy. If you don’t feel comfortable with it you don’t. But saying “all the time” could be kinda exaggerated. And it can kind of be normal for some friends to act like that. You haven’t been with her long and I don’t know how your relationship with her is but maybe talk to her and get more context and decide from that wether or not it’s a deal breaker.