Apathetic Parents of Girlfriend
Girlfriend’s parents, when they found out that I was raised by a single mom tried to make things sour between my girlfriend and my mom.
They would tell stories to my girlfriend to warn/scare her about how my mom would be entirely dependent on me and therefore her.
My girlfriend is the only child too. Her parents are constantly hounding me about what plans I have for them if I were to marry their daughter. I would suggest some ideas but these would always be met with a “what about your mom?” in a way which suggests it’s them or my mom. Her mother also hinted that there’s no way 2 families can gather as there will be too much politics. My mother is an easy going woman and has not made any demands. I obviously cannot abandon my mom she has no one.
I love my girlfriend very much but I do think that her parents are being very selfish and apathetic towards my mom. Refusing any compromise. And this really breaks my heart especially as they’re can perfectly make a lot of the compromises.
Am I right to feel the way I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- You’re right to feel the way u feeling.
- Ur mother has no one left in this world but only u. It is only right that u take care and protect her. Having said this, if ur mother is as reasonable as how u describe, she will not put you in any tough position by making you choose. She will support u in every decision u make and I hope you WILL include her in your every decision.
- Your gf’s parents on the other hand, while she is their only child, her parents got each other still. And they shouldn’t be pressuring you to include them in your plans. It IS selfish of them to do so. Your gf needs to step up in settling her parents as they have overstepped their boundaries.
- Next, your gf. If she truly love you, she will accept you and your mom. She will spare a thought for you and your mom’s dynamics. She should be inclusive of your mom in her plans too.
- It’s all about how your gf is willing to stand up for your situation and explain it to her parents. If she is not willing to do that for u, then she is not worth of your love. Its as simple as that.
- what has ur gf said or responded to the situation? if she’s also sounding like her parents and after talking it out she’s not helping to ease the situation then change gf. since her parents are so difficult she has to step up to do smth about it and not leavethe plans of her parents to you.
- you 1 person wanna take care of how many people? it sounded like the whole world will depend on you.
- I’m just curious. How does your girlfriend feel about this?