A girl took to Facebook to share how she was allegedly sexually assaulted by her own brother and when she told her mother about it, she sided with the brother and eventually forced her to move out, lying to everyone about the reason why she was living alone.
She wrote that she was sexually assaulted 6 years ago, when she was 19-years-old, by her then 16-year-old brother.
The first time it happened, she told her mother, who replied that she would handle it. But her mother didn’t do anything and the girl ended up being sexually assaulted again.
She begged her mother for a CCTV to be placed in her room to prove that she wasn’t lying, but months passed before she realised that her mother didn’t get her the CCTV because she probably didn’t want to see her son “in action”.
The girl then moved into her Gan Ma’s (godmother) room next door and slept on the floor.
Her mother would tell her about Tyler’s schedule so that she can “hide whenever he comes back”.
The girl even had to ask for permission to get water.
She revealed that everyone knows about her being sexually assaulted by her brother but no one is doing anything to protect or defend her.
She said that she caught him sniffing her panties, peeking at her showering and etcetera.
The girl also added that when she wanted to inform the police, her mother threatened to commit suicide.
Soon after, she was forced to move out of the house, at the age of 19, with her mother lying to everyone about the reasons for her moving out; resulting in her family thinking of her as a nuisance and her relatives believing that she wanted her own space.
She said that she had to eke out a living to pay for her own rent.
She wrote that her brother would wait for her to fall asleep and strike, going into her room to touch her. He would then smirk when she was too afraid to leave the room and call her a “coward”.
The girl also added that she is done being the “coward again” and that she is writing the post to shed light on the truth.
YOU CAN READ HER FULL POST WITH PHOTOS, VIDEO AND AUDIO RECORDINGS BELOW:
“Hello everyone, this is Kristal. I am going to share a traumatic experience that happened to me 6 years ago, which still haunts me till this date. It pains me to share this story, but I am done being the silent victim. I will just put this post out here, please feel free to share it around.
I (then 19 y/o) was sexually assaulted by my brother, Tyler (then 16 y/o), on several occasions. For years I’ve tried to suppress and was in denial of the memories I had. It was too painful to live as a part of me. I can’t believe I will be put into this situation. Yet here I am.
The first time it happened, I told my mother. She said that she will handle it, and so I waited. While I was sexually assaulted again. I was terrified of the many nights that followed. I thought that maybe she didn’t believe me?
I became so scared that I told my mum I wanted a cctv, or a hidden camera. She promised that she will get it. I hope that my mother can get it as soon as possible. If she doesn’t believe me, the evidence will prove that I am not lying. Everything will be captured on the camera.
I believed her totally when she kept telling me to wait. I waited for the cctv for days. Weeks. Months. I did not know that she kept delaying to buy the cctv because she didn’t want to see her son in action, she doesn’t want me to have that crucial piece of evidence.
Every night is a living torture. She told me she will settle and not to stress her out. Then I was moved to Gan ma room next door and slept on the floor. My mother will tell me Tyler’s schedule and tell me I can hide whenever he comes back. I even had to ask for her permission to bring me water. That was how afraid I was. I felt as if I had done something wrong.
But you know what hurt me the most ? Everyone knows about it. My gamma knows about it. My grandma knows about it. How can a human being act like this?
I caught him sniffing my panties, peeking at me showering and more… Instead of punishing him, he was given excuses – the absence of our father, he was young and ignorant, he is just curious, and many more. If he doesn’t think what he has done is wrong, why do it in the middle of the night while I was sleeping?
I don’t know why there is no punishment for her son. Not even tell him about sexual education. Nothing at all. And the moment I wanted to inform Police, she even threatened to commit suicide. She even goes as far as telling me lies. Saying that she was in a similar situation too, she was molested by her Uncle and she did not tell anyone.
I thought she’d stand in my place and at least she would understand me. But no. She did the other way round. She wanted me to do the same, and even threatened me not to tell anyone that my brother sexually assaulted me.
Then, I was forced to go for a viewing. I was dumbfounded. Why do I have to move out? I am the one who was kicked out of the house as I tried to voice out. I was 19. She told me this is for the best. Eventually I stayed at a rental room and started working full-time to pay for rentals.
She threatened me not to tell anyone else, but she gave them all the false information on why I moved out. My family thinks of me as a nuisance. My relatives think I needed my own space. My friends see it as freedom and think I’m fortunate to stay out in a rented room.
My landlord thinks I’m a rebel, because it is uncommon for kids to stay out so young in SG. My mother had to sign the tenancy agreement for me because I’m underage! As a real estate agent, she knows the rules far too well. She did everything perfectly, as long as there is parental consent for an underage to move out, she will not get into trouble.
My nightmare did not stop after I moved out. Every New Year, she’ll force me to go back. If I refused, she will pull my hand and my gamma will say ä½ æ˜¯æ³¼å‡ºåŽ»çš„æ°´ and many more of those hurtful words. I was forced to face my perpetrator every year and he is constantly torturing me with his actions and words.
And I just kept thinking. What have I done wrong to them? My gamma knew about the touch. And you know what they say? Touch and molest is different. You tell me. In the middle of the night. Your brother just goes to your bed and starts touching you. That is not molest? Everyone knows but they choose to ignore. The worst thing is that I chose them. I chose my family over myself.
My mother turned a blind eye and was constantly telling me how well my brother is doing. I felt like her words were ripping me in and out. I was suffering throughout while my perpetrator has all the benefits.
I was the one who got the blame for my own insecurities, and I am labeled as a nuisance whenever I try to speak out. My mother will go as far as bringing me to church every Sunday and make me feel I am the one having issues instead of her son.
My mother even asked me to hide (from the video recording below). No matter if it is 6 years ago or 6 years later, it is no different. Victims should not hide! My mother valued her pride more than my dignity, that’s why she shunned me off.
I know it is hard for my mum to bring us up as a single mother, that is why I did not even complain. I never told anyone what you made me go through. It was plain living hell.
I was degraded a year after Primary School because you brought me to China, I did not take any Recess money and gave you all the money I had so you can give more to my brother, but you even sent me to psychiatrist in school because I prefer to be alone and quiet?
I never protested. But this is too much! You ignored me pleas and cried for help. I was sexually abused while believing in your lies, again and again. I keep believing in you, believe that you will protect me. But what did I get?
Who doesn’t want a place to call home? How much I want to stay comfortably but my mother wants me to hide from my perpetrator whenever he comes home. You disregarded how scared I am, how fearful I am everyday and the emotional torture I had to endure just because you wanted her ‘ideal’ perfect family.
That is why I did the best I could. I gave you money when you asked for it, lent you $20k without second thoughts, and treated you despite me paying for all the rentals. I just can’t take it anymore. Why must you do this to me? What have I done wrong?
You disregard everything I have ever done and labeled me as unfilial. I have never told a single soul what you did until now. How much I cherish you as my mother. But you break me.
Throughout the ordeal, I was so fearful and scared. There are many times that I just wanted to give up…
Hereby, I also want to make it clear to all my relatives, families and friends, or to whoever my mother has come into contact with, to not believe in her lies. This is what happened. Pictures and recording below as evidence. I also want to let the world know that this kind of family existed.
I am done being the silent victim.
I was too fearful and scared. It was truly a repulsive experience. The first time it happened, I told my mother. She said she will settle, and so I waited. While my nightmare still goes on. He was given excuses – the absence of our father, he was young and ignorant, he is just curious, and many more.
Knowing he can get away with it, he gets bolder each time. He waited for me to fall asleep, and strike.
His smirk when I’m too scared to go out of the room. Calling me a coward, good for nothing and useless ****.
I was tormented every single day. The cursed words threw in my way, caught him several times sniffing on my panties and even peeking me in the shower.
I was constantly vulnerable and exposed to him. Until I could not take it anymore, I was suffering in and out, and ultimately diagnosed with PTSD.
Just because he has a bright future, they helped him. So what if he was from Victoria Secondary? NJC? Now NUS(or any Uni)? He is the role model in school, even a prefect. Who will ever think that behind closed doors, he is a monster?
The kind of guy who will call his mother Bitch and kick the dog, posted horrible things online and sexually assaulted his own sister. He looked down on me and kept telling me I am lower than him. I am the garbage. I should not even be born. I took it all in.
I was forced by my mum against reporting to the police. Instead of him being punished, I am the one who was kicked out of the house as I tried to voice out. I was 19.
But I will not be the coward again.
I am the one left being insecure, helpless, isolated, untrusting and anxious. I get paranoid over the smallest things. I overthink and it is so hard to love, or feel loved.
No one should suffer the way I did.
No woman should be fearful and ashamed of being a victim of sexual harassment.
No family should shun her off and treat her as an embarrassment after all the suffering she has been through.
To Tyler: Just because you go to University,
It doesn’t mean you can go around telling your friends, and people around you that my claims are false.
It doesn’t mean you can blatantly lie.
It doesn’t give you the rights to molest girls, just because nobody reprimanded you.
I want to make it clear to all my relatives, families and friends, or to whoever my mother has come into contact with, to not believe in her lies. This is what happened. Pictures and recording below as evidence.
Please share this post around and help me reach them. Thank you.
Edit: I did report to the police mid 2020 after my mother forced me to move in again. But I think she gave a false statement, as she said ‘there’s no evidence concluded’.
I also waited for the psychiatrist from the police for 1-2 months after the police report was made. I have to go IMH with another person to accompany me, that is when I was diagnosed with PTSD.
I’m so sorry that I missed this part, but I did report to the police. “
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