I’ve been mad at my boyfriend for ignoring me, but I’ve finally realized he’s tired of me.
The last few months of our relationship, I’ve noticed he ignores my texts, won’t acknowledge me when I’m standing next to him talking to him, and just in general ignoring my existence.
I’ve been angry with him, trying to do the same, but I can’t. I can’t give him his own medicine because I love him. I love spending time with him, and I love communicating with him. Thinking on it today, I just realized it’s because he’s tired of me. He’s use to me. He doesn’t appreciate my time like I do his.
I just needed to tell someone this, because it’s the first time I’ve had a different view that wasn’t “I’m not good enough.” It’s a “I’m not appreciated the same way I’m expecting it.”
I don’t know what is next, but this was huge for me. I feel like I’m growing.
people seem to think I’m codependent or have some sort of anxiety separation, and I’m sorry, but it’s not the case.
I work 10 hours out of my day, so texting is our main communication. He’s asleep by the time I come home and I sleep in due to my schedule. He’s on his phone every minute that I’m home.
I’ll make my coffee, tell him I love him when I see him, and he’ll ignore me because he’s too into something on his phone, or respond 3-5 minutes later.
No I don’t think he’s cheating.
I haven’t seen any energy towards the relationship. No dates, gifts, watching tv shows together, movies, chore sharing, etc. The most I get is an “I love you.”
I try to plan dates a minimum of once a month, but he shoots them down. I buy him flowers and things that make me think of him occasionally and he doesn’t seem to appreciate them very much.
I’m going to talk to him before anything.