I have been in relationship with my bf for around 2.5 years.
Everything is great. Hes very loyal and no problems at all. But 1 thing he always does is he takes money from me all the time due to his gambling habit previously. I have a part time job and i get salary after every shift. When he knows im getting my salary he will immediately call me and ask me to trf half of the salary. Claiming he has no money and need money for his food, ciggs.
Almost everyday i trf him half of my salary and the next day he will come and ask me more money for him. Even if i say i don’t have enough he will keep insisting on it and keep irritating me and disturbing me to borrow money from others to give him. He owes me till date arnd $28K. But he say that i have failed as a gf and i throw him in the fire. Just cause my cousins told me to stop giving him money as he should earn for himself and not be taking it from me. (They only found out abt this issue 2 days ago)
I love him alot. But i am so hurt that he say i have failed as a gf.
What should I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- I think you are blinded by love, love is just a four letters word..If you want to be abused then it is your choice..if you don’t want to be abuse then it is time to open your eyes and see! The answer just a super clear just that you aren’t seeing it.
- Seriously, even my daughter at 17 would know this is stupid beyond words. What the F is wrong with you? If you can’t see how wrong this whole thing is, then I’m seriously questioning if there’s a lot more to the story.
- When it comes to r/s, victims usually are the main enablers. In your case, you are enabling your bf to gamble and become a good for nothing. Do you want to know what will happen next? Physical abuse….Currently he is just verbally abusing you because you don’t live tog…. Imagine living with him and you can’t support his habits? He can easily lay hands on you. So I suggest you get out of his life or your life will be fxk and that will be your own doing Btw, being loyal is fundamental in a r/s. Nothing to shout abt.
- You are a silly, silly girl. Gambler, penniless, eat slipper rice… and you “love him a lot”. Now all your BF needs is to be a drunkard, wife beater and pimp you out. Then he’d be the perfect guy for you.
- Sorry to say, but you are a big part of this problem. So many red flags and you said everything is great and there’s no problems at all.. How much in denial can you be??? The first step out of this situation is for you to accept there is a problem to begin with. He is addicted to gambling and you are enabling it. Of course he’s gonna say all sorts of awful stuff to you when he doesn’t get what he wants. It’s called abuse and gaslighting. Don’t simply take his words as truth. Once you wake up and realise these problems, trust me, his words will stop being hurtful and you’ll stop loving him.