Why is everyone so offended that I don’t want a wedding?!
I don’t want a wedding. I just want to go to the ROM. My boyfriend and I both don’t want to do the whole ceremony and formal reception.
He wants a barbecue-type party with friends and family to celebrate, no dj/band or photographers or floral arrangements or anything that goes along with a typical reception.
Both of our families are offended we don’t want to do the wedding thing.
For me, I dread being the center of attention and the idea of everyone I know staring at me all night is my absolute worst nightmare.
My mom saying it’s selfish not to have a wedding and stupid because of all the money we’d receive as gifts. His parents are devastated we never planned on a church wedding(which wouldn’t happen even if we decided to have a ceremony).
My aunt said I can’t ruin her dreams of me having her kids walk down the aisle as ring bearers/flower girls. That is everyone else’s opinions and desires. And not mine.
Am I so wrong as to not want a wedding?
Netizens’ comments
- I’m the same way. Weddings are overhyped, awkward, insanely expensive parties that the bride and groom don’t even get to enjoy.
- our aunt’s big dream of showing off her kids at your wedding?? Sorry, but this is so twisted it’s funny. I wish I was your friend to hug you and laugh together at what families can be. Relax. Tell your aunt she is free to get (another, eventually) wedding herself and torment her kids for the ceremony. Tell your mom everyone must be so perfectly healthy and content in life to make such a big deal over this. Your wedding. Your joyous occasion. They must not spoil it for you. Unless you’re unconsciously using their protest as a way to express your own inner doubts, there’s no reason why you should sacrifice this perfect day in your life for being a people pleaser. Plus, barbecues are fun.