I’m close friends with my former teacher and I don’t know what to think about it.
Long story short, I’m (19F) close friends with a former teacher (30sM) of mine. He was my teacher during the last year of school and even back then we got along well and had a closer relationship than a normal student-teacher one, but since I graduated, we’ve become really really close.
We now hang out every single week, do stuff together, go to lunch/dinner/coffee (and he always wants to pay for me), sometimes text for an hour or so in the evening (we just randomly chat about whatever, never about something even remotely inappropriate), he has driven me in his car or on his motorbike a few times, we got each other birthday presents etc.
It’s also clear that we deeply care about each other, he’s super sweet and kind to me and viceversa, he knows “everything” about me and I about him, we have inside jokes, we often hug etc.
I know how it may sound, but he has never crossed any line and never acted inappropriate even just once. He’s super respectful and I think he sees me as a sort of daughter/younger sister figure. And I’ve never crossed a line either.
I know it can happen that students and teachers stay in contact after graduation, but I’m also aware that this isn’t the usual “get coffee once every two years to catch up and see how life’s going” type of thing, so I’m a bit confused about it all. So I’d like to receive some feedback from you please.
- I wonder if he is “friends” like this with any male former students.
- Thirty something year old men with their shit together don’t make a habit of hanging out with teenage girls who aren’t relatives of theirs.
- Do you think he would be “friends” like this with a former male student? Come on.