Okay background my bf (m22) and I (f22) have been dating since our freshmen year of school. We’ve been through a lot together and we’re each others first everything.
We are now adults living together. This January my bf suffered an accident at work. It was a bad fall and the way he landed he did something to his spine so now he has no movement from the waist down. The docs say there’s always a chance for recover and we should keep trying.
And we were. We are. But I noticed my bf seemed down so I got him a ps5 for Christmas. I’ve never been great at hiding things from him and when it slipped out he just looked at me and started crying.
He told me he didn’t deserve.
He kept calling himself a failure as a man. How he can’t even wash himself without my help anymore how he can’t even please me (we haven’t been intimate in bed since everything happened but I’m fine it is not that big of a deal to me which I thought he was already aware of)
He throw his cup against the wall and just started yelling. Not words more like a battle cry and then fell off the bed.
I don’t know how to help. I thought about therapy but with his medical bills we can’t afford that we’re only on my income now he has filed for unemployment but who knows how long that’ll take.
He’s never been angry before sure he gets the standard road rage every blue moon but yelling was never in the picture especially throwing things. I want to help I just don’t know how.
I told him he’s not a failure and accidents are just a part of life and how we will get through it together.
Then he went on about how I’m probably cheating on him which is why I don’t look miserable.