GIRL BROKE UP WITH BF OF 6 MONTHS, ASKS HOW DOES SHE “UNLOVE” HIM

how to unlove someone? we broke up in november last year. It was a short relationship (less than 6 months).

but i poured out my whole heart and invested in this rs. we both envisioned a future together.

but his effort for me started depleting towards the end. no matter how much i tried to be understanding, to love him, it was so one sided and I realised that there was no more love. i knew he just didn’t know how to break that news to me.

so I became the dumper not by choice, but the dumper that was left with no choice.

here we are in april 2022, i’m still not over it. i’ve busied myself, went no contact the minute we called it quits, so why am I still not over.

I believe he is already done and moving on. But why am I still so stuck. I can’t do this anymore. I hate feeling so much for someone who has moved on and clocked out of a rs.

Netizens’ comments

• Key is distraction. Go for a random meetup or gym/dance event. Like half of them are there to get distracted and to start again.

You can do it

• Maybe you have to come to terms and forgive yourself for giving yourself to someone undeserving of your love. It might be this tension that you are struggling with instead.

Put in another perspective, it is your emotional losses that hurt. It could be another person that failed you in a similar manner, but the act of giving your all to someone who failed to give it back is painful. This could be because you expended yourself willingly, and the cost was great, and you could be subconsciously blaming yourself for not perceiving better and making a poor choice on whom you chose to pour all your love on. Your ex could simply be a representation of your perceived poor judgement.

Maybe take some time to forgive yourself. Love is a risk, and maybe when we fully have our hearts broken might we know the true value of a healthy relationship when we encounter it. Maybe when you can accept this as part and parcel of love, might you able to forgive yourself, let him go and move on.

So, instead of unloving someone, start loving you instead. Take care!