Is this normal?
When I was playing a mmorpg game, my bf asked me “who are you playing with, what are their names, male or female”.
He rarely uses tele but stalked my online status and asked if im talking to anyone from the game because he said “you always online before you start playing”.
I also noticed he joined the game’s facebook private group that i was in, even though he doesn’t play the game.
Some other incidents that also shooked me:
1) Asked me who’s this guy that frequently likes my facebook posts, insisted that the guy wants my attention.
2) Said my ig numbers increased, asked who followed me and who i followed. He said he’s not stalking, just sensitive to numbers. I screenshot my “most recent follows” to show him it’s a glitch, but he was still doubtful.
3) From time to time ask me “any guys message or talk to you on Facebook recently?”.
4) Whenever we have an argument he’ll spam call and msg until i have no choice but to answer the call even though i dont wanna. Even when i was on holiday with my family he kept spamming until i picked up. Still got some other incidents but i lazy to type already.
Is this normal? Are these red flags? Please help a troubled sis out.
Here are what netizens think:
- One day he’s going to make you wear only ugly outfits, ask you to take videos to see there are no other guys around, not allow you to go to the gym/fitness classes where there are men around, not allow you to hang out with your friends if there’s guys in a group (even if they may be your friends boyfriends/husbands), and send you everywhere to make sure the person you are meeting is not male.
- Normal for young kids. When you get older he’ll be like ‘yay go play your game, I can do my things in peace.’ Or ‘ he likes you? Good luck to him then’.
- Have a chat with him and tell him how u really feel and that he has issues to be fixed if he still wants this relationship to go long term. Definitely many insecurity from past incidents and he has to heal that. You cant fix him but you can help him realise he needs fixing and ask him get professional help if needed
- Like what others say, he’s possessive and insecure. Plan your exit asap. He will likely stalk you and make things difficult for you when you attempt to leave him. Get support from friends and family.
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