I (23F) can’t move on from the time my BF (22M) told me I have a loose vag.
We’re doing very good together now but I can’t help but feel insecure when I remember that a year ago after the first time we slept together, we got home and he told me that I have a loose vag.
I told this to my best friend and she said maybe I do because she said her bf would never tell that to her. I felt very bitter with her comment.
Both of them said sorry when I opened up that I felt hurt and it wasn’t brought up again after that time but I still remember it especially when we sleep together
How would I remove my insecurities from his and my best friend’s comment or at least remember it less?
- Sounds like neither him or your friend understand how vaginas work to begin with. If you’re “tight” (i.e. tensed up) it actually means you are not aroused. The vagina “loosens” when it becomes aroused. You’re not loose, your boyfriend is just an idiot.
- was your boyfriend genuinely apologetic for his comment? you should be honest and tell him that it still weighs on you. does he usually say mean things like this? if this isnt the only time, re-evaluate the relationship.