I can’t have intercourse because it’s too painful. Any ideas on how or why?
So basically the title. I(18f) have been with my boyfriend(19m) for over a year and in the past few months we decided we’re ready to go to the next step and sleep with each other.
Prior to that we only kept to hand and mouth stuff. We are each other’s first, no prior experience for neither of us.
Here’s the deal tho, we tried doing it a few times (used protection, lube, set the mood, all that stuff) but whenever he is inserting inside me i can’t take more than let’s say 5 cm because it hurts TERRIBLY.
I wouldn’t say the cause is his member being too long or girthy (i’d say he’s packing around 15 cm to 17 cm?)
Is this normal? Should i go to a gyno to get checked up? What’s going on?
Netizens’ comments
- This could be nerves that go away with time and foreplay. Either way, it’s good to get checked out just to eliminate concern
- Yes, definitely have it checked out. Keep in mind that it stretches A LOT when giving birth, so you shouldn’t really feel that much pain when trying to have “use it”. Specially when you said everything else was fine. So yeah, have it looked at by a professional.
- Definitely see your gyno. It could be you still have part of your hymen intact, and that’s causing your pain. If that’s the case, then it’s actually fairly common, and not too difficult to deal with, so don’t worry. It’s entirely possible it may be psychological, as well. Do you generally feel completely relaxed and comfortable? Or do you have any anxiety before or during?
- Go see a gynecologist. That’s the only way to understand what’s causing pain.