My boyfriend and I decided to have a “threesome“. He’s bi and into a particular fantasy with another guy. He told me that we would only go on the apps together and be very open with each other about who we were talking to. It was supposed to be a shared activity with full transparency.
Right after we got the apps, my boyfriend got a little weirded out and said “let’s delete these apps – I’m happy with our S life.”
Then a week later, I found out he never deleted Grindr, but I had deleted all of the apps on my phone. He told me he found someone to be our “third party animal“. I was a little upset, but I did agree to the “threesome” at first, so I said whatever. He told me that they had only talked on Grindr and were planning on touching base after to holidays. I later found out that they had exchanged numbers and my boyfriend was texting him flirtatiously and the guy was calling him “daddy” and it looked like they were basically sexting with words.
I wanted to marry my boyfriend before this incident, and now I just don’t trust him. I love him but I’m just not okay with how he painted the picture of a fully transparent threesome that we would both be a part of, and then found his own S friend that he talked to behind my back. I’m very open and comfortable with him being bisexual and would be equally as mad if he were doing this with a girl.
I still love him and he’s apologized a million times and he’s open to going to therapy to figure things out. I just can’t get over my resentment and distrust.
Here is what netizens said:
Has he cut contact with this guy? It’s a bit fishy that he acted weird and said delete the apps, but then kept it himself. He intentionally kept it from you, who knows what else he’d willingly keep from you in the future. Good luck.
You should mentally prepare yourself for the possibility your boyfriend might be gay.