My boyfriend told me “that’s life” when I informed him that my grandma’s dying and I won’t get to say goodbye
I live overseas and far from my family, and I recently found out that my grandma is in the hospital.
Today I was updated and found out that she developed pneumonia and was put into an induced coma. Her condition is critical, and it seems unlikely that she’ll make it.
I haven’t seen her for two years, because I’m studying overseas and don’t have enough money to visit frequently, so I won’t be able to see her.
What hurts the most is that I wanted to call her, but I didn’t get the chance to before the coma, so if she dies, I don’t know how I could forgive myself for not saying goodbye and telling her how much I love her.
As I’m telling my boyfriend this, he was coming down from having a great day. Rather than comfort me, he tells me “that’s life”.
He’s never lost a loved one, so he can’t relate. I’ve lost my dad, aunts, cousin… So I understand full well “that’s life.”
I become obviously more upset at this, and he just walks away.
I’m so frustrated and sad, and I feel so alone in this.
Netizens’ comments
- Is there someone with her? Call them and have then hold the phone to her ear. Talk to her and tell her what she means to you. I believe she will hear you.
- That’s hard, but if you are hurting from this situation, then I’m willing to bet you’ve shared some happy memories with your grandma. A final goodbye may have been nice but you’ve brightened her life already.
- ((HUGS)) Make the call anyway and have someone hold the phone to her ear.
- That lack of empathy, disregard towards your feelings, and disrespect to your family should be seen as a DANGEROUS RED FLAG! Run girl, run.